You want others listen to you and do what you want. Unfortunately, others may not listen to you because they have their own brain grow in their head. Below are methods to make people listen to you.
When you want people listen to you, talk gently to that person. If you talk to the people angrily or fiercely, people won’t listen to you. For example, if your manager tells you that your report is bullshit, will you agree with your manager? Of course, no! In contrast, if your manager tells you that your report still needs to be improved or do some amendment, will you agree? You may think your manager is correct. Same situation but with different way, the result is totally different. Use gentle way if your want people listen to you.
On one free day, sun and wind meet together. They chat across various topics. When come across the topic who is stronger, they start to argue among themselves. They even fight with one another but no one win.
Finally, they agree to show their power on an old man that walks on the road. Who can take off the coat from the old man will be the winner. Wind takes the first turn by blowing strongly and fiercely towards the old man. However, the old man grips his coat firmly. The wind never gives up and blows again even stronger and fiercer. Unfortunately, the old man grips his cloth even firmer to prevent the coat from flies away! No matter how strong the wind blows, the old man grips his coat very firm. Finally, the wind fails and gives up.
Now, it’s sun’s turn to show its power. The suns start to show up slowly and gently. Within one minute, the old man starts to take off his coat by himself.
If above method does not work, then you have to use this one. Say the opposite things that you want that person to do. Some people do not want to follow other people. Why? This is because they think they are smarter than others. So, if you advise them not to do this, they will insist to do this.
For example, you are a teacher in the school. You found out that your student who is 15 years old smoking in the school. You caught him and advise him not to smoke. Anyway, you still found him smoking in the school. You know that it is useless to advise him. So, what should you do? You can request him to smoke in front of you and at the same time, he needs to smoke 10 cigarettes at once.
Another example, your wife always wants to eat junk food and you always advise her not to eat the junk food. Unfortunately, she does not want to listen. So, in order to make her not to eat junk food, you can advise her to eat junk food for lunch and dinner. At the same time, buy a lot of junk food for her. See what her reaction is.
