When you want people listen to you, talk gently to that person. If you talk to the people angrily or fiercely, people won’t listen to you. For example, if your manager tells you that your report is bullshit, will you agree with your manager? Of course, no! In contrast, if your manager tells you that your report still needs to be improved or do some amendment, will you agree? You may think your manager is correct. Same situation but with different way, the result is totally different. Use gentle way if your want people listen to you.

On one free day, sun and wind meet together. They chat across various topics. When come across the topic who is stronger, they start to argue among themselves. They even fight with one another but no one win.

Finally, they agree to show their power on an old man that walks on the road. Who can take off the coat from the old man will be the winner. Wind takes the first turn by blowing strongly and fiercely towards the old man. However, the old man grips his coat firmly. The wind never gives up and blows again even stronger and fiercer. Unfortunately, the old man grips his cloth even firmer to prevent the coat from flies away! No matter how strong the wind blows, the old man grips his coat very firm. Finally, the wind fails and gives up.

Now, it’s sun’s turn to show its power. The suns start to show up slowly and gently. Within one minute, the old man starts to take off his coat by himself.

If above method does not work, then you have to use this one. Say the opposite things that you want that person to do. Some people do not want to follow other people. Why? This is because they think they are smarter than others. So, if you advise them not to do this, they will insist to do this.

For example, you are a teacher in the school. You found out that your student who is 15 years old smoking in the school. You caught him and advise him not to smoke. Anyway, you still found him smoking in the school. You know that it is useless to advise him. So, what should you do? You can request him to smoke in front of you and at the same time, he needs to smoke 10 cigarettes at once.

Another example, your wife always wants to eat junk food and you always advise her not to eat the junk food. Unfortunately, she does not want to listen. So, in order to make her not to eat junk food, you can advise her to eat junk food for lunch and dinner. At the same time, buy a lot of junk food for her. See what her reaction is.

The story started once upon a time when God first create animal and man.

First, God created first donkey and said to the donkey:

“You name is donkey. You will work from sunrise to sunset without rest and carrying burdens on your back. Meanwhile, you will eat grass and you will have no intelligence. I let you live for 50 years.”

The donkey answered:
“Oh! My God! To live 50 years is too much. Give me only 20 years. Another 30 years I do not want”
God granted the donkey’s wish.

Second, God created first dog and said to the dog:
“You name is dog. You will guard the house of man. You will be his best friend as long as you are alive. You will eat the scraps that he gives you. I let you live for 30 years.”

The dog answered:
“Oh! My God! To live 30 years is too much. Just give me 15 years. Another 15 years I do not want”
God granted the dog’s wish.

Third, God created first monkey and said to the monkey:
“You name is monkey. You will swing from branch to branch of the tree and doing tricks. You will be amusing others. I let you live for 20 years.”

The monkey answered:
“Oh! My God! To live 20 years is too much. Just give me 10 years. Another 10 years I do not want”
God granted the monkey’s wish.

Finally, God created first man and said to the man:
“You name is man. You are the only rational creature on the face of earth. You will use your intelligence to become the master of all animals. You will dominate the world. I let you live for 20 years.”

Man answered:
“Oh! My God! To live 20 years is too short. Just give me the 30 years that the donkey does not want, 15 years that the dog gives up and another 10 years that the monkey rejected. In addition, give me another 10 years.”
God granted the man’s wish.

From that time on, man lives happily 20 years as a man. Then, man starts to marry and spends 30 years like a life of donkey, working like hell and carrying all the burdens on the back.

After that, when the children are grown up, man lives 15 years like a dog taking care of the house and eating whatever food that is given to him.

When man is old, he retires and live another 10 years like a monkey, going from house to house and from one son or daughter to another. At the same time, man doing tricks to amuse the grandchildren.

This is life. Oh! My God! It is damn true! How about another 10 years? Oh ya! Another 10 years, man doing nothing and just waiting to be called back by God. Welcome to become man!

1st thing human beings want in their life, good feeling. Human beings want to feel good. Even though the thing they done are actually not good for them, they will do it if they feel good. For example, there are a lot of people bankrupt due to overspending using credit card. Why human beings still want to overspend when they know they cannot afford to pay for the bill? This is because they feel good when buying something they like. There are also a lot of people like to enjoy cigarette. As they know smoking is not good for health and burning money, but they still continue to smoke. Why? This is because they feel good when smoking. As long as the feeling is good, then human beings will just do it.

2nd thing human beings want in their life, something new. Human beings want to have something new although they already have the thing. For example, there is a type of human beings that they know they already have handbags but when they see new handbags, they will go and buy without thinking twice. Lists of something human beings want to have new one are very long. It included new shoes, cloth, car, house, wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, face and so on.

3th thing human beings want in their life, excitement in life. Human beings feel boring of something they have long enough and want something which is exciting. For example, some human beings are boring for their tails at the front body. They want more excitement. Therefore, they cut off their tails and change their sex from man to become woman.

4th thing human beings want in their life, memory. Human beings do not have good memory. They always forget things they have done before. Therefore, they repeat the history and make same mistakes again. The same mistakes may repeat several times. To help them memorize things. They create camera, video recorder and so on. Since memory for human beings is limited, they create memory card, memory disc and so on to help them memorize information.

5th thing human beings want in their life, something they do not have. Human beings always think that things owned by other people are better and they want that one. For example, a husband always thinks that other people’s wife is more understanding and he wants that kind of wife. Unfortunately, all husbands are wrong. All wives are not understanding. In other words, human beings always think that food in other people’s plate is always taste better.

6th thing human beings want in their life, to be different from others. There is a type of human being in this world where if they found out others wear the same cloth with them, they will feel angry. This is because they want to be different. Human beings always differentiate themselves. For example, they have unique driving license number, unique identification number and so on. Human beings like to be different.

1st make friend tips , always smile. Smile does not mean that you are happy. Smile means that you welcome that person. Therefore, always smile even though you are sad. If you do not like to smile, then you will give an impression to others that you are a serious person. Other people do not like to make friend with serious people because people afraid to be rejected. Practice your smile at home in front of mirror to make it natural. As long as your mouth becomes U shape then it is smile.

2nd make friend tips, start with praise in your conversation. If you want to make friend with stranger, always start with praise. For example, you are waiting for a train and you found out that there is a handsome man or pretty woman standing beside you. Then, it’s time to make friend. You can start to praise the shoes he or she wears. Then, ask him or her where to buy the shoes. Anyway, if he or she answers that this is not your business, then forget about shoes and talk about the clothes he or she wears. If he or she still answers that this is not your business, you can explain that you are not doing business and just want to make friend. If he or she still does not want to make friend with you, try next time when you see him or her. Maybe today’s mood is not good. As you know, once in a month mood will be bad.

3rd make friend tips, borrow your hands. This means that help other when he or she need somebody to help. This is a good way to start a friendship. For example, you saw a car stop at road side and a pretty lady waving hand for help. You can start your relationship with her by stopping and help. Anyway, do not ask for money after you had helped her. This is because most of the time when you hang up with friend you spend money, you seldom earn money.

4th make friend tips, take photo together. This will give an impression that people in the photo are in same group and they have some similar interests. This is why Presidents or Prime Ministers of various countries like to take photos during conference. This is because they try to be friend first. Therefore, always take photos with a group of people.

5th make friend tips, distribute your personal name card to the person you like to make friend. A lot of people has business name card but seldom has personal name card. You can write where you stay at your personal name card. Add in also your phone number, email address, instant messenger number and your personal blog url.

6th make friend tips, click add as friend. It is very easy to make friend in this era. You can go to internet and create one or more accounts at social networking website. For example, log into Facebook. See which handsome guy or pretty girl that you like and click add as friend. After that, you just need to wait for the reply from the other party. It is very easy to make friend.

1st thing, have your own style. Find something you like and develop from it. For example, you like black color. Then, always wear black suit, black shoes, black bra, black underwear and sun glasses. Act like Men In Black. When people think of black color, people will think of you. In this era, you need to differentiate yourself from others if you want to be outstanding. If you do not agree, let’s see how Lady Gaga wears her costume.

2nd thing, have enough money. Money? Yes! Money again! Most things in this world involve money. You may want to work for something you like after working for 10 to 20 years. Do you know that when you reach 45 years old, you are mostly on your current position until you retire? It is still not old to start your own business at 40 years old. Realize your dream or regret later.

3rd thing, stable personal life. If you are still single, then your personal life should be stable. If you are married, then it is very important that you have a happy family. If you fall into relationship crisis at this age, your career will be affected. It is not easy to start from the bottom again. Therefore, do not seduce other people or get seduced by other people if you are not single.

4th thing, have learned all the knowledge of your field. At age 40 years old, you should know all the knowledge or technical skill for the things you do to earn livings. It is time for you to utilize your expertise to earn more money. It will be too late if you are still struggling to understand your field.

5th thing, have large pool of people who can help you. A success of a person in not solely comes from the effort of that person. There will be a lot of people behind the scene and exert their effort. The person who can help you may be are your friends, relatives, spouse, ex-bosses, ex-husbands or ex-wives. Therefore, always have good relationship with people. Do not build enemy.

6th thing, have some ways to market your knowledge, expertise or hobby. You may know a lot of technical knowledge in your field or you are the smartest person in your field. Anyway, you need to do something to turn your knowledge into money. The process is called marketing. For example, a singer which is not good in singing may make more money than a singer with good voice and good singing technique. This is why marketing is very important. Even rubbish also can become gold if you are good in marketing.

7th thing, have some experience tips. If you have someone who has experience to guide you to success in your venture, then it is very great. If you do not have that person, then you need to learn the experience from others by reading. You can talk to the person, read online or read books to learn the experience. Learn the mistake by own experience is good but it will be better to learn from others mistakes.

1st reason, we have a lot of money. When you have a lot of money, you will definitely want to live longer. Why? This is because life is very comfortable. Most of the time, you can do things you like. You can have a lot of people doing the dirty jobs for you that you do not like to do. For the thing that you like to do, you will do it yourself. The world we live now is money dominant world. With money, you can buy everything. You can buy love and people will provide the love to you on the bed. You can buy time and people will give their time to work for you.

2nd reason, we do not have money but we afraid to die. It is pain to die. So, why we want to die? It is better to keep on living.

3rd reason, we do not have choices. We only have 1 option, namely living in this world. We are unable to switch to live in other world. Maybe there are other worlds in other dimensions such as hell and heaven. Unfortunately, everybody wants to go to the heaven but nobody wants to die. Die is not good. Why? Because movies say so. As you can watch in movie, only bad guys or girls will die. Good guy or girl will live. Since we are good guy or girl, then we should live.

4th reason, we still have hope. We have the hope that in future we can achieve our dream. We live hard today is for future. We work hard today is for our dream. So, we keep on rolling with our hope.

5th reason, we do not know why. This is a very genuine answer. We do know why and we just keep on moving like zombie. Since we open our eyes and wake up, we just keep on doing something which is repeatedly every day. We eat something, then go for working. Then, eat something for lunch, keep working, eat something for dinner, watch TV and sleep. Life is repeating everyday. Why? We do not know why we are living because we are living zombie.

6th reason, we promise people to live longer. Sometimes, we promise our lover or lovers that we will live longer. Sometimes, we also promise our creditors to live longer. Therefore, in order to make our lover, lovers or creditors trust us, we keep on kicking.

7th reason, we are the first runner on sperms race. That’s why we are born to this world. If not, we are the first few runners on sperms race and we are born as twins or more. If we are not a good runner, then we are the lucky one. We had been picked into test tube and born to this world. Therefore, we do not give up easily. We will fight to live in this world.

8th reason, we are competing with other to leave our name in world record. We can leave our name in world record by achieving highest age in this world. For this moment, governments in this world do not limit the year you can live on the earth. Therefore, you can live as long as you can and as long as you like.

1st creativity story, in a school, a teacher requests her students to make an airplane that can fly at a long distance. The airplane can be in any design as long as the airplane can fly far. All students are given a piece of paper to make their own airplane. After 5 minutes, all students have completed folding their own airplane with different designs.

Next, there will be airplane flying session to determine which airplane can fly far. The teacher throws the airplane one by one. Anyway, none of the paper plane can fly out of the classroom.

Now, it is time for teacher to make her own airplane. The teacher takes a piece of paper and makes it into a ball shape within 1 second. The teacher throws the ball-shaped paper and the paper is easily thrown out of the classroom. Is there anyone say that airplane must have wings. The tradition tells us that airplane should have wings but is airplane really needs wings? Who say airplane must have wings?

2nd creativity story, there is a country where the leader wants to improve the public transport. So, there is a suggestion to build a MRT (Mass Rapid Transfer) system. It is some sort of subway. To build the MRT, a group of tunnels need to be excavated. Anyway, according to the Chinese Feng Shui, digging at the bed rock will damage the Dragon Vein of the country. This is very bad and will cause the country to sink. Bad luck will come. Anyway, there is always a solution. According to a Feng Shui master, to continue with the project, every household in the country must have a Chinese Ba Gua which is in octagon shape.

Unfortunately, not everybody in the country believes in Chinese Feng Shui. It is also ridiculous to set a regulation that every household must has Chinese Ba Gua. Therefore, the leader of the country must think of a creative idea to fulfill the requirement of Chinese Feng Shui.

At the end, the leader of the country had come out with a creative idea. Chinese Ba Gua will be added in the coin. So, a coin had been designed to have octagon shape inside it. Since the coin is money, then everybody in that country will own it. Those who do not believe in Chinese Feng Shui will also keep it because it is money. Who does not want money? Therefore, every household in the country will have a Chinese Ba Gua indirectly since Chinese Ba Gua is in octagon shape. This has fulfilled the requirement of Chinese Feng Shui.

Open our mind and try to explore different possibilities. Do not just follow tradition. Challenge the tradition. If you success, you will find a new way others do not know. If you fail, at least you know why tradition is there. Creativity is about challenge the tradition. Had you challenged the tradition?

Closed your eyes and think when you are 60 years old, what will you had done and what will you have? Think. You will probably think of having a happy family living in a big bungalow by driving luxury car and traveling around the world. Some people will think of young hot sexy girl or man beside them. It is not wrong if you already married because this is just a dream. Some people will think of burning money to light the cigar. Please do not think like that because this is not environmental friendly. More trees will be chopped down to make the paper. All is just a dream if you just dream.

How to turn the dream into reality? Dream is input and reality is output. There is a process in between input and output. Process is an action. With input but without process, there will be no output. Do you put in action to realize your dream? Some people plan their action to realize their dream. Some people do not plan but waiting for opportunity to act on.

Normally, we have at least 1 opportunity in every 10 years of our life to realize our dream. Anyway, when the opportunity comes, we hesitate. When it goes, we regret and hope that the opportunity will come again. Unfortunately, for next opportunity, we have to wait for another 10 years. How many 10 years do we have in our life? Can we wait for another 10 years?

Do you know that when you think of an idea, there will be another people in this world think of it also? The different is action. People who are successful act on it. The other people that does not seize on the idea will remain status quo. Sometimes, when you read the story of some successful person, you realized that you already know their idea before. Anyway, you do not act on it. The other people who act on it had been succeed. The fear of failure makes us hesitate and does not act on opportunity. We afraid to lose things that we have now or money we need to invest. But in fact, we lose also when we hesitate. We lose 10 years of our life. We have to wait for another 10 years. How many 10 years do you have in your life?

One day, you make a cake. Anyway, the cake you make is not delicious. Next day, you will try to make the cake again. What will you do to make the cake delicious? You may change the ingredient or change the method. The important thing is that you will do something differently to make the cake delicious. Same situation, if you want to change your life, you have to do something differently. For example, you want to have more money because the money you get in your work is not much. Then, you have to change the way you make money. If you are using same ingredient and same method every time, you will get the same cake. Albert Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

When opportunity comes, seize on it. Not think about it but try it! If you think about it, you hesitate. If you try it, you act! You have to do something differently from previous to change your life! Doing the same way everyday will have same life. By the way, how many 10 years do you have in your life?

There was a man wandering in the jungle alone. Suddenly, he met a tiger. The tiger was very hungry. Therefore, the fierce tiger ran and jumped towards the man. With all the energy, the man ran quickly. Anyway, the tiger did not give up. The man has no choice but to run as fast as possible. Finally, the man ran to the edge of the cliff. There was no more way to run.

The man looked down the cliff and think: “Instead of being bite and ate by tiger, why not I jump down from the cliff? I may have living chance!”

So, the man jumped off the cliff. Luckily, at the half way, he had stuck on a tree. The tree was grown from the seam of rocks beside the cliff. The tree was full of fruit.

When he felt lucky, he heard the loud roaring sound from the ground. Therefore, he looked downwards. He saw a fierce lion looking at him.

He became panic. After that, he started to think: “Lion and tiger are almost same. They are fierce animal. There is no different to be eaten by lion or tiger.” Then, he felt calm.

When he did not felt worry, he heard another sound. When he looked carefully, he found out that there were 2 rats biting the tree. One was white rat and another one was black rat.

He felt panic again. After a few moments he started to think: “Instead of being biting until die by lion or tiger, it is better to die felt off from the tree.” Then, he felt relieved.

After 10 minutes, he felt very hungry. Luckily, the tree was full of fruit. So, he started to eat the fruit on the tree. He felt that this is the most delicious fruit he had ever eaten. After that, he found a Y shape branch to rest.

He started to think: “Since I am going to die, why not I have a good sleep before I die.” Therefore, he slept on the tree.

After 2 hours, he woke up. He looked around and found out rats, lion and tiger were not around anymore. So, he walked along the branch of the tree and climbed up the cliff carefully.

Finally, he climbed up the cliff and get away from dangerous place.

In fact, when he was slept, the tiger became very hungry. The tiger roared and jumped off the cliff to catch him but unsuccessful and land on the ground. The white and black rats ran away after hearing the roar of tiger. When the tiger landed on the ground, the lion and tiger fought with each other. Both tiger and lion injured and ran away.

Start from when we are born, hardship is like tiger chasing us continuously. Death is like fierce lion, waiting for us at the end of the cliff. Night and day is like white and black rats consistently rotten our body. One day, we will drop into the mouth of lion.

Since we know the worst case scenario is to die and this is the only way, we should enjoy the fruit of the tree with relaxed mood and sleep well. We should enjoy every moment of our life.

If you are still angry with your family member about small matter, please go out to see the bright sky and moving cloud. You have missed a wonderful day!

Why we go to work? There are many answers. Some people go to work because they feel boring when there is no work. Anyway, this is just small portion of people. Most of us go to work because we want money. Sometimes, we put too much feeling into the company. We feel that the boss is so good or our colleagues are so nice. So, we continue to work in the company even though the money we get is lower than market rate. Until one day, we found out that other people doing the same job are getting rich. Then, we start to blame ourselves. Time had been wasted. This happened because we forgot the objective we go to work. We forget why we go to work.

If the objective you go to work is to earn some money, what should you do to make more money? Will hardworking make more money? Or working smart will make more money? If your boss emphasizes hardworking culture, then hardworking may increase your salary. On the other hand, if your boss emphasizes final results, then who care about the process? Therefore, forget about hardworking. Focus on getting result with minimum effort. Do not just keep on working. Always compare what you are doing with your objective.

A man and a lady were on dating. What is their objective? To have fun? Maybe. Of course, in overall they want to build rapport relationship. During dating, they talked about football. Later, they argued with each other which team will win in the competition. Each of them has their own reasons why their preferred team will win. This is a typical example of focus on details and forgets about the overall objective. The dating objective is to build rapport relationship, not debating which football team will win. Then, who care about which team will win.

Sometimes, we set the objective and perform the action. Anyway, on the way, we forget about our objective. For example, we decided to make money by writing a book. We know very clear that we want to make money. Then, we start to write a book. During writing, we use a lot of beautiful vocabulary with deep meaning. This is because we want to write the best book in the world. After finish writing a book, we found out that this is a book with best vocabulary and free of grammar error. Anyway, the book is very boring. The book can become the best textbook in the market. Anyway, it cannot be the best selling book. So, the objective failed to be achieved. Sometimes, we just keep on doing and forget to evaluate whether what we are doing can help us achieve our objective.

Jump out from what you are doing now and think like an outsider. Look at overall. Not at the details. Evaluate periodically whether what we are doing is matching with our objective. If not, then it is time to change. Change! We need!

1st fire safety question: During fire, we should use wet towel to cover mouth and nose. After make the towel wet, should we twist the towel to make it dry?

Fire safety tips: Of course, you need to twist to dry the towel. A lot of fire safety tips teach you to make the towel wet but never tell you to twist the towel. If you do not twist to make it dry, before you choked by smoke, you will be choked by water.

2nd fire safety question: If I do not have water to make the towel wet, should I pee on the towel or spit saliva on the towel?

Fire safety tips: You can do that but it is not necessary. Below are the reasons:
-In emergency, it is very difficult to have urine to pee.
-Time to escape from fire is 3 minutes. Do you want to waste 2 minutes to pee?
-Expert says that the effectiveness is almost similar between wet towel and dry towel.
-Urine is smelly and nasty.
-Do you think that you have so much saliva to wet the towel?

3rd fire safety question: There is fire and smoke inside and outside of the room causing me unable to run out. At the same time, the room has commode / close stool, should I put my head inside it to get fresh air?

Fire safety tips: Of course, you can do that but it is not a good idea. Normally, wardrobe is closed all the time. So, the wardrobe has remaining fresh air. You can hide in the wardrobe. At the same time, use hard object to knock or make sound to let everybody know that you are hiding inside wardrobe. Most important thing is that do not fall asleep.

4th fire safety question: During fire, should I crawl with low position?

Fire safety tips: Yes. You may do that. The purpose to crawl at low position is because fresh air is at the bottom. Anyway, please do not do this at public area. When in fire emergency, everybody is running. If you are crawling with low position, you may be stepped by other people. If possible, get out quickly with low position following the wall.

5th fire safety question: Should I open eyes in fire site?

Fire safety tips: If it is dark, there is no point to open your eyes. High temperature smoke may burn your eyes.

6th fire safety question: During fire, should I use plastic bag to keep fresh air and cover on my head?

Fire safety tips: If the fire temperature is not high, you may do like that. Anyway if the fire temperature is high, please do not do like this. This is because the plastic bag will melt and stick on the skin. The most important thing is that it is very difficult to remove plastic from skin.

7th fire safety question: If I am a lady, what is the first thing should I do during fire?

Fire safety tips: You should remove your stocking or panty hose. This is because stocking or panty hose will create similar effect like plastic bag.

8th fire safety question: Should I put fire extinguisher in kitchen because kitchen easy to generate fire?

Fire safety tips: This is not a good idea. This is because when kitchen is in fire, you will not be able to go into kitchen. So, put your fire extinguisher outside the kitchen. The best place to put fire extinguisher is in bedroom. If it is fire at night time, you can immediately get the fire extinguisher. If there is no fire, you can use it to fight robbers.

1st stop worry tips, think of worst case scenario. Think about the worst case that can be happened. If the worst case is not so worst, then there is nothing to worry about. If the worst case is really worst but you can accept it, then you will not worry. For example, you just forget about the birthday of your girlfriend and now you worry about it. If the worst case is your girlfriend will angry only, then it is not so worst. Therefore, you should not worry about it. Let her angry. If the worst case is your girlfriend will break up with you, then it is really worst. Anyway, if you can accept it, then there is nothing to worry about.

2nd stop worry tips, have backup plan. If you worry that bad thing will happened, then have backup plan. Since you have backup plan, then there is nothing to worry. A good example of backup plan is buying insurance. If you worry that medical fee is very expensive, then have a backup plan by buying insurance. Another example continues from above tips, if you are worry your girlfriend will break up with you. Then you can have a backup plan by having more contacts of female friends.

3rd stop worry tips, write down your worry. Write your worry on a piece of paper. Now your worry had been transfer to the paper. Do not keep the paper. Take the paper and burn it into ash. Throw way the ash. Your worry had been eliminated. Do not burn the paper into water and drink. This is because you are recycling your worry.

4th stop worry tips, do not think too much. What you are worry is something that not yet happened. That is why it is called worry. What you have imagine not necessary will happened. So, save your brain for other purpose.

5th stop worry tips, exercise. If you are worry about something, that means there is energy in your mind. The stop worry, you can perform exercise to release the energy. Use out all the energy and you will stop worry.

6th stop worry tips, found out the truth. If you know the truth, then there will be no worry. For example, a man is worrying that his secretary may be pregnant after having sex affairs with her. He can stop worry by bringing his secretary for pregnancy checking. If she is not pregnant, then he can stop worry. If she is pregnant, then he can plan what to do to stop worry.

7th stop worry tips, do not do it. For example, you worry that you will become fat if consume too much fast food. Then, you should not consume fast food. If you worry that your wife will angry if you chatting with hot chicks online, then you should not do it.

8th stop worry tips, pray. Instead of taking medicine to stop your worry, you may pray everything will be no problem. Praying you will be good luck. It is an inexpensive and sometimes effective way to stop your worry.

9th stop worry tips, talk to people. You can talk your worry to other people. If the people are laughing at you after you talk your worry to them, then you have nothing to worry. If the people are also worry about your worry, then your worry will be reduced. This is because other people also have such worry. Then, your worry is nothing special. You are same with other people. So, there is nothing to worry about. If other people do not worry about your worry, you still can reduce your worry by talking to them. This is because you have shared your worry with them. Worry is like flu. If you share your flu with other, latter you will recover and other will take all your flu.

10th stop worry tips, see psychologist or doctor. If you have try all the methods to stop worry but you still worry too much, then you may need to see psychologist or doctor. Sometimes, it may cause by your hormone or by your gene. Anyway, sometimes people become more worry after consulted by psychologist or doctor. This is because they worry about the medical bill.

11th stop worry tips, release your eyebrows. Do not make your eyebrows tight. When you are worry, your eyebrows will become tight. Therefore, relax your eyebrows and you will stop worry.

There was a husband and a wife who stayed at condominium which is located at 80th level.

One day, they went out for travel. When they came back, they found out that there is no electricity. Therefore, the lift cannot operate. Unfortunately, the electricity will be resume back only after 8 hours. Even though they carried a big luggage, they did not want to wait and decided to climb up by using stairs.

They started to climb up by bringing the big luggage. When they reached 20th floor, they start to feel tired.

The wife told the husband: "The luggage is too heavy. Why not we put it at 20th floor? We go up first. Later when the electricity resume back, we go down by lift and bring it up." The husband replied: "Yes! This is a good idea!" Therefore, they put the luggage on 20th floor and continue to climb up.

Since they do not need to carry the luggage anymore, they felt much more relax. They chatted happily on the way.

Unfortunately, when they climb until 40th floor, they felt extremely tired. When they think that there was another 40 floors to be climbed, they mood became bad. They started to blame each. They climbed up by blaming each other and reached 60th floor.

Upon reaching 60th floor, they have no more extra energy to blame each other. Therefore, the husband told the wife: "We just remain 20 floors to climb. We should stop to blame each other. Let us climb up quietly." The wife agreed. So, they climb up the stairs quietly.

Finally, they reached 80th floor. Upon reaching the door of their house, the husband showed a happy pose and say: "Honey, please open the door!" The wife replied: "Don’t play! The key is at your side." …

As a result, they had kept their key in the luggage that they had left at the 20th floor.

The above story reflects our actual human life.

Before 20 years old, we live by bring the luggage. The luggage is the pressure and expectation from our parents, teachers and family.

After 20 years old, we left the expectation of other people behind. We unload the luggage. We start to pursue what we want. We live it happily for 20 years.

When we are 40 years old, we found out that we are not young anymore. There are things that we regret for not doing. We pass another 20 years by complaining.

When we reach 60 years old, we tell ourselves that the life is not long anymore and we should stop complaining. We pass through the remaining years quietly.

At the end of the life, suddenly we discover that there is something that we not yet completed. We left our dream in 20 years old.

It is time to pursue your dream! The only way to realize your dream is just do it! Try it out! You won’t know until you try!

Now, the rabbit was not happy that turtle won in the race. So, the rabbit asked for second race with the turtle. Of course, the turtle refused because now turtle is the winner. The rabbit went to ask the permission from the Lion King, the King of jungle. The Lion King agreed with the rabbit. So, the turtle had no choice but to race. Therefore, the race began. This time, the rabbit did not sleep anymore. The rabbit ran very fast without rest on the half way. Finally, the rabbit won the race.

Now, it is the turn turtle not happy. So, the turtle went to the Lion King to request for another race. Since the race can bring a lot of tourists and have some fun in the jungle, the Lion King agreed to have another race. This time the turtle will choose the racing route and the turtle had chosen a secret path. When the race starts, the rabbit ran very fast. Suddenly, the rabbit stopped. This is because there was a river at the racing route. The rabbit was unable to go through the river. After half an hour, the turtle arrived and swam across the river. Finally, the turtle won the race.

The rabbit is born to run fast. This is the strength of rabbit. Unfortunately, the rabbit is unable to swim. Swimming is the weakness of rabbit. In the other hand, the turtle is born to swim. This is the strength of turtle. However, the turtle cannot run fast. This is the weakness of turtle.

We are also like rabbit and turtle. Everybody has their strengths and weaknesses. You have your strengths. You may weak at certain area but at certain area, you are winner. For example, you may not do well in your study or even people call you stupid idiot. Anyway, when comes to certain area such as playing sport, repair cars or singing, you can do it better than others.

Life is like a race between rabbit and turtle. Everyday, we race with other people to survive in this world. If other people get that high salary post, then you do not get it. If other people get that sexy chick, then you do not get it. So, we should choose our racing route. Choose according to our strength. If you are not good in singing then do not become singer. Other people will do it better that you. You may try for dancing. If you are good in acting, then you can go to become actor, actress or politician. If you are good in car racing, then you can go to become police. Choose your racing route of your life according to your strength. Race with your strength and win it!

Forget about your weakness. Focus on your strength. Develop and go further with your strength.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates. So, everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy. Do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room. So, I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned Coke bottles for the 5 cents deposits to buy food with and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combination, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical and artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down and it has made all the difference in my life.

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First think out of the box story, there was a boy who inserted his finger inside the nose to clean the nose. Unfortunately, he cannot pull out his finger. His mother helped to pull out his finger but failed. Unfortunately, his father also failed to pull out the finger from the nose. Father and mother brought their son to doctor. The doctor also does not have idea how to help the boy. Since the doctor unable to do anything, the parents decided to bring their son to see the wise old man in the village. Anyway, the wise old man unable to work it out too. As the last resort, the parents brought the son to the rocket scientist. After some scientific analysis and attempts, the rocket scientist gave up. All of them have no idea on it. Suddenly, the younger sister of the boy shouted out that she knew the solution. Everybody was wondering what she going to do. She went to her brother and moved her finger up and down at her brother’s rib. The boy felt very funny and pulled out his finger from his nose!

Second think out of the box story, there were 2 soap manufacturers in the town. Both deliver soap in box to their customer. Each small box contains a single soap. Sometimes, they received complaints from their customers that they had delivered empty box without soap. To reduce the customer complaint, both of them came out with different solutions. Manufacturer A had bought a high technology expensive scanning machine to scan the content inside the box before delivered out. This will make sure soap always inside the small box before sending out to customers. Of course, a lot of money had been invested on that high technology scanning machine. On the other hand, manufacturer B had bought a cheap standing fan and placed it beside the conveyor after packing. If the box is empty, the box will be blown away. This can also prevent the empty box being delivered out. As you can read, there are different solutions to solve a same problem.

Above are instances of think out of the box. There are many solutions for problem solving in our life. If you can think out of the box, you can solve a problem easily and with minimum cost. As you know, money and time are limited. A think out of the box solution will involve less money and simultaneously less time to carry out.

So, what is think out of the box? As you can see from the stories above, one of the common key features for think out of the box is simplicity. Solve the problem with simple solution is the key. Remember, simple! Keep it simple stupid.

There was a time where 2 countries compete to explore the outer space. Anyway, both countries encounter a problem. Both countries found out that they have difficulties to record down important data on paper at the outer space. There is no gravity at the outer space. So, they cannot use pen to record on the paper because the ink cannot go down to the paper.

To solve the problem, both countries had set up their own team to develop a workable solution. Finally, both teams have come out with their idea and creation. Thus, they continue to explore the outer space. Due to the competition at that time, they do not share with each other on their unique method of data recording.

A few years later, both countries cooperate to build a space station. One day, astronauts from country A and B meet together at the space station. They chatted together. During chatting, astronaut A was very proud to show how his team works to solve the problem of data recording. Astronaut A said: “Let me show you how my device works to record data.” The astronaut A took out a device look like mini computer. “We spend 1 year and 10 millions dollar to create this high technology device. All astronauts are trained about 1 month to use this device. This is one of our advanced equipment in space.” Astronaut A continues to say proudly. “How about you?” Astronaut A asked astronaut B. Astronaut B answer: “We do not have advanced equipment to record down data. We spend about 15 minutes for meeting to come out with best idea. It cost about 50 cents to implement the idea. We use a pencil and a paper. It costs about 40 cents for pencil and 10 cents for paper. No training is needed.” Astronaut A looked at the astronaut B with eyes opened widely. A simple way has solved the problem.

In our life, we encounter many complicated problems. Anyway, we have conditioned our mind that we must use complicated solution for complicated problem and simple solution for simple problem. We do it without our awareness. Sometimes, we just need a simple solution for complicated problem. Therefore, be careful when you have complicated solution. Simplify the complicated solution.

Today, we learn a lot of complicated theory of science or advanced mathematics to solve our life problem. We have received so much education until we believe that advanced method is the best way to solve any problem. This is not true. Think like a stupid or else ask a stupid to think for a solution. You may surprise that the stupid solution is more effective than your advanced solution. You may be smart but the solution you think should be simple and easy to carry out.

Next time you encounter any problem, remember to KISS. KISS is keep it simple stupid!

Why stress arise? Stress arises because of uncertainty. Because of uncertainty, then you feel stress. When you know how to handle the things, there will be no uncertainty and you won’t feel stress. For example, when you have a lot of task to be settled and you know how to handle it, then you will not feel stress. In contrast, when you have a lot of task to be settled and do not know how to handle it, then you will feel stress.

There are some ways to reduce stress:

1st tip, keep all unrelated documents off your working table. When working table is full of documents, it will gives you false impression that a lot of tasks waiting for you to settle. Imagine when you go to office and walking towards your table, you do not see a clear table but you see lot of documents. How do you feel? Oh god! What a bad mood! Today, I must be very busy and have a lot of work to be settled. So, just keep relevant documents on working table. Throw away other documents. This is also same for computer desktop. Do not keep all files on computer desktop. This is a simple way to reduce stress.

2nd tip, if there is uncertainty, make it clear. For example, your wife may request you to perform housework. Perform all housework or certain type of housework only? You feel stress because there is possibility that you need to do all the housework. To eliminate the uncertainty, you can make it clear by asking your wife. Perform certain housework only? Yes! At least your stress had been reduced. Perform all the housework! Oh No! But at least your stress had been reduced also because you have accepted that this is your fate.

3rd tip, today’s work finished it by today. This habit had been taught by our teachers since primary school to finish all the homework by today. Since the work had been done, then there will be no stress. Of course, this is for small task.

4th tip, for big task or project, it is impossible to finish it in one day. So, what should we do to reduce stress? The best way is to divide it into several small tasks and settle it one by one. Settle one big task or project in last minute can create huge stress. If you want to consume an elephant, what should you do? Do you swallow it? No! You eat it with one bite and follow by another one bite until you finish the whole elephant.

5th tip, when you fell stress, write down what caused you feel stress. You may write down some tasks that need to be done. Suddenly you will find out that there are only a few tasks or the tasks are so easy to do. Sometimes, we worry too much.

6th tip, when you feel very stress, take a break and go to the open crowded area. Why go to open area? This is because there is no ceiling on your head. Gravity pulls the weight of the ceiling on you causing you feel stress. Don’t believe? Go to open area then you will feel the different. Again, why go to crowded area? Because according to scientists, energy does not disappear. This is law of conservation of energy. Since energy cannot disappear and stress is energy, so go to crowded place to transfer your stress to other people.

7th tip, concentrate on one task each time. Multitasking can create stress. For example, when you open several applications at the same time on your computer, you computer will response slowly or sometimes it will hangs. This is also same to human’s brain. So, do not get yourself hang or crazy.

8th tip, think of the worst case or situation. When you have a big project that cannot finish on time, what is the worst case? The customer will be upset. Will it affect you? Yes, because your boss will fire you? If no, then just relax. If yes, can you find another living? Yes! Then, relax! Whatever things happened, you still need to eat and sleep. Just relax!